Meet the fascinating Laurie McDermott, CEO of TheWifeExpert.com

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Hello friends and welcome. Midlife crisis,

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also known as mlc, is often dismissed as a cliche,

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but the reality is far more serious. During this period, individuals experience

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a profound psychological and emotional upheaval leading to

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impulsive and self destructive decisions that they later regret.

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Despite the clear signs of instability, MLCers are currently allowed

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to file for divorce and make irreversible financial and legal choices, often to

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the devastation of their long term spouses and families. Thank you

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for joining us today because now you are going to hear people from

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around the world as they tell their story in their own words

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about their bomb drops and beyond you.

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The stories and events discussed in this podcast

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are based on our guest experiences and are intended for informational

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and entertainment purposes only. They should not be considered legal,

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medical or professional advice. Any names, locations or identifying

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details have been changed to protect privacy. Any similarities

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to actual persons, living or dead or real events are purely coincidental.

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The views and opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily

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reflect those of the host or the podcast creators.

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Listeners should consult with a qualified professional regarding

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their own circumstances.

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Hey guys. All right, today I'm so excited because I have round

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of applause. We've got Lori McDermott here. Lori is

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the founder and CEO of,

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of the the Wife Expert. I almost said midline.

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I almost said MLC bomb drop. She's the the

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CEO and founder of the wife expert.com and

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she's also got the life expert.com I'm going to tell you guys a little about

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Lori. She is happily married, mother of three. She is

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a family advocate. She used to do standup comedy.

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So buckle up because this could be entertaining today. Um, she's an award

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winning columnist. Dozens of publications that she's written for. She's an author,

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she's a love for life educator. She appears regularly on dozens

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of TV shows, podcasts, popular radio programs and

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she's always out there sharing her her true life wisdom. She's got

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a degree from Loyola University of Chicago, usc, the WC Institute

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and she's done post grad studies and wellness at Yale.

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I think we might have been insane. Happy class. Did you do the happy class

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at Yale? I did. High five. I did

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that too. It was just, it was years ago and I was like this is

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great. Yeah, it was like the number one thing

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at the time. So. And then she studied brain

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science at Amen. And she is.

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She also writes a column. I think it's a monthly column called

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Hope and it's syndicated throughout Southern California and

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spreading and she's also appeared on marriage with joy and

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divorce with integrity and lots of other things. So I'm so excited to

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have Laurie McDermott here today, and we're going to talk about midlife crisis.

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We're going to talk about some stuff that she's doing that's going to be out

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to the public pretty soon. So let's go.

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All right, we are on. Hello.

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How are you, my dear Trina? I'm good. And, you know,

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the audience didn't see, like, it took us, like, 20 minutes to get

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going today. It was me, Trina, here, that had issues

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with my mic or speakers, but Lori hung in there, had to let her dog

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out. Now she's back, and she's gonna talk to us about stuff.

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So I think we both had a crazy, hectic morning, and.

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But we're here. Well, I can. I can. Let's start there, because I truly

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believe. I do. I do. I'm. I'm a believer in God,

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and I. And if some of my clients aren't, I don't talk about

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God, but if they are, I do. And so I.

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I've interviewed enough priests about exorcisms

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and, you know, possession that when I'm

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about to do a podcast with somebody via. I'm doing the podcast and

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I'm interviewing someone, something goes wrong. And my engineer

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has said to me, you bring the devil in the weirdest ways

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because he shows up and he blocks you from having calls.

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I had this big interview set with somebody, and the power

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of the hotel went out while I was.

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And it was. It. And it's just. Wow.

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Like, it's just fascinating. So, anyway, I tell people, never give

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up. I'm gonna. Well, I'm gonna piggyback on that because our audience may not realize.

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So, yeah, the devil is trying to keep us from connecting

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today and getting the truth out,

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because there's. There's. Carol Pate

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is a psychic that I follow on Facebook, and when she has her twice a

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month, Facebook lives, a lot of times the

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power goes out and there's technical difficulties, and it's.

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You can sense that there's a. A closure

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there. You know, I'm Christian, too, but I. I do use psychics.

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But anyway, we will go on. But, yeah, there's. There's a division

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there. But I hear you. The dark side is often trying to keep

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goodness down, you know, and the dark side. We're not going to

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let the dark side. I'm banging

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the dark side down right now. All right, you need

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to do that, Ness. I want to hear real quick for Our audience.

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What you know. Can you tell us a little about your situation

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with mlc? Oh, God, that's hours.

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Where do you want me to start? Cliff Notes is fine. Cliff notes 2012.

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Let's just back up 2009, my husband and I. He was my best friend.

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I didn't date him for a year because I was sure if

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I started dating him, I would marry him. He was that good of a

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person. And I knew if I started dating him, he's. He's the guy you

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marry. He's committed. He's a good person. He never did anything wrong. His mantra

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was, do everything right. Always.

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Always choose the right thing. And he. He used to tell me, lori,

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are you doing the right thing? And I would sit there, and I'd be like,

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no. So he was kind of like my guide.

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And so when we sat outside this plot of land and he said,

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I want to build a house on this land. And I was like,

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you know, I've heard when people do this, they get divorced. I don't want to

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get divorced. And he says, we're best friends. That'll never happen to us.

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And he goes, in fact, we'll see a therapist every week for the next two

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years just to make sure you're going to be okay. And I was like,

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okay. So we did that. And then it was suddenly,

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you know, he would just complain about things and look at me and say,

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yeah, I just. I just don't understand you. I think. I just think I should

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have married someone else. And I'd be like, what? Like, what are you talking about?

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Because we'd be out with friends. We had. We had so

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many friends. Like, I had insurance policies, friends at church,

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friends at the schools. And I constantly had us connected

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alone on date night. Every Thursday. Thursday's a great night to do date night.

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And we just finished each other's sentences. We were two

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peas in a pod. And then all of a sudden, things got weird.

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And I did have some creepy moments. Um, I'm sure it

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was God and the devil, which. I'm not sure if we should talk about it

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right now, but they really brought me to my knees. And I thought,

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someone's trying to communicate with me here. And slowly,

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I saw him pull away. And then the next thing I know,

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you know, you just know as a wife and a woman,

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when you. When your partner's cheating on you or is about to,

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you feel it. And his dad had died. His mom was

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really sick. And then Joe Paterno, who was the football

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coach at Penn State, who My husband worshiped never.

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I think he met him once, but he was the guy that my

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husband wanted to be like. And so when he fell from grace, which was

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terrible, and it was wrong, my husband was affected.

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And every night there'd be, like, a liturgy, and he'd have to put candles all

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over. And I'm like, oh, dear, it's been, like, six months. Do we really

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have to keep doing that wrong? Lori was so wrong,

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and I. I did a lot of things wrong.

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And so finally, he was. You know, he came home

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from a trip, and I kind of knew something was up.

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Um, and I said, you know what? What'd you do this weekend?

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And he's like, oh, I was with so and so. And I'm like, are you

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sure you were there? And he's like, yeah. And I'm like, well, that's weird,

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because while you were there, your phone was in a hotel,

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downtown Chicago. And he was like,

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oh. So I found out real quick. He was. He literally

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said to me, listen, you're great, but this lady that

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I met, she's amazing. She's nice.

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Yeah, she's amazing. She's. You really like her. Met her.

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That's what he said to me. You. If you met her when you meet

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her, because you're going to meet her, you guys are going to be best friends.

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And I'm sitting here going, like, complete. I was blown away.

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Like, I just, like, all in, like, a period of 10 minutes, he said all

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this to me. He's like, oh, my God, she's so nice. One thing he said

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to me, which I've never forgotten, she has so many friends.

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And I was like, well, I have friends, like, lots of.

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What does that have to do with anything? Right? But to him, this is

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a big deal. So it was horrible.

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So let me ask you, because you guys weren't living in Chicago at the

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time, right? Okay. He went back there for work. This person,

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he worked with her and he worked with. And this is what I. You know,

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I've learned. Cause I've. I've done so many. I'm. I'm a.

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I'm like a pit bull. If something's going on and I want to

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know more, I become it. So I needed to know

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everything. But when I found out what a midlife crisis was, someone suggested

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it to me, and I was like, huh? And so, back in 2012,

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there's very little information, but I dove

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into it, and I found out, you know, she worked with him for,

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like, six years. And I. I don't.

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I I'm always worried, like, I don't want to have bad karma, but she wasn't

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very attractive, and she was like a foot. No, no, it's. We know.

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It's an affair. Down. Yeah, it's. She did. She. She feared up,

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but it. Huh. What? Why? He likes brunettes.

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He likes dark hair. Dorset. He went for something that wasn't his type,

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and it was just baffling to me. So I could go in

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any direction. Why don't you guide me? Okay.

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So, Jeremy, what you want? When did you.

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Did you start the wife Expert? Was the wife expert

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your first adventure into

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mlc? Helping people? Like, is that what you started?

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Did you start with YouTube videos? Like, what took you from discovering

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the affair to deciding you're going to help folks out there?

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Because you help folks every day. I do emergency help

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rescue this morning for somebody, which rolled

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our time back, like, by three hours because you had to help a wife that

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was in crisis. I step out of dinners to

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talk to wives. I stopped driving to talk to wives.

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I have not gotten on an airplane because I've had to talk to a wife.

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they won't let me talk on the phone. On the airplane. Um,

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yeah, I've. I go the extra mile. And I think that's what makes

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me different than anyone, even a therapist.

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So your question about how did I start the Wife Expert? I was doing something,

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so I did stand up. My goal was to.

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I had a TV show that came out, and all this stuff went wrong.

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It was just one big disaster. My TV show decided. I did.

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We did a pilot, and it was going 20 episodes.

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And then it, you know, testing didn't work. Viacom was changing

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their minds, and they attached me. And then they put it back on the shelf.

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And my agent was like, well, let's just see what happens. And then someone else

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is like, that's the kiss of death. It's over, Lori. And I was like,

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what? And then, you know, I kept getting calls to go back up and do

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standup, and I signed up for them. And I'm like, you know, I don't really

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want to do this anymore. But I was thinking, I wasn't sure. And then that's

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when I found out about his affair. And I think he was having the affair

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because all of his personal life was going bad. His work was turning

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down. And then he was afraid. Even though he was happy for me,

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I think he was afraid he was going to lose me, too. So he was

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Feeling very sorry for himself. And he didn't come to me and tell me,

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but his choice and option was this new person. Because overnight

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he was like, hey. And I'm like, who are you?

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He's like, what do you mean? And I'm like, you're so happy. You've been,

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like, sad for months, years. And he's like,

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oh, I don't know what you're talking about. And I was like, this is

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weird. But he was happy because he found an affair,

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and that was very exciting. So after a month, I got fishy. That's how

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I found out. But back to the wife expert. So I had a

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website called the Life Expert, and I poked

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fun. I had a website called lorimcdermott.com, which was

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my standup. But I kind of branched off into stories, because I

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love people and I love stories, and I just.

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I just. I wanted something that I could, you know, talk about stories and

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love and happiness and God. And that was what that was. And there

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were funny stories. And so someone said to me, well,

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so what happened was, after I did this, and I got

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through and I. I started interviewing people. And on

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the Life. No, just because I was psycho.

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Because I'm like, what the hell's going on with my husband? How am

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I even here? We like, what is he doing? Like, this is.

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And was he. Were you guys living together at that time?

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I told him, you could live here in the house with us, but you

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got to get rid of the girl. And he was like, no, this is my

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life. And so he finally decided it was a good idea to

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move out, and I was okay with that. So he left,

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and I was alone with the kids with no money, and I started.

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You know, there was a lot. There was. I started because I

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couldn't pay. I mean, when people call me and say, I really want to be

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on your program, but I don't have any money, I'm like, sip. Buckle up,

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sweetheart. I will help you find money. This is not the hard part.

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The hard part is actually sitting down and learning this stuff, because that's

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the hard part. Because you have to really be humble, right? Because I thought

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I was perfect. People are like, just fix yourself.

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Work on yourself. And I'm like, what are you talking about?

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I am perfect. I have no idea how I could

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be more perfect. And, oh, how wrong I was.

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So that was very humbling. And I started talking

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and interviewing people anywhere, because I'm one of those people that

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I have no fear. And so if you're standing in line with me at Target.

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And you're wearing a wedding ring. And I see you and you look

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like you're 60 or 70. I'll be like, ooh, you're married. Do you

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have any struggles? Do you have any advice? My husband left me. And then I'd

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start sobbing, and I'd be like, oh, sweetheart. And they'd

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sit down with me and they'd tell me about their whole life and what happened

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in their marriage and their brother's marriage and their cousin's marriage, and you get all

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kinds of stuff. So I got enough people to

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tell me what to do, and they all said, hang in there. He'll be back.

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And I didn't believe them. And so I started going to church.

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And I went to church a lot, but now it was like I was going

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to church when there was no one there just to pray and say, what am

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I supposed to do? So I turned to God a lot. And one day I

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was sitting outside, and one of the deacons came by, and I said

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to him, oh, hey. And I figured he'd know. He's.

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He's old. He's like, 70. He can tell me what's going on, right? So I'm

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like, hey. And I invited him in my car, and I was sitting there,

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right in front of church, and I told him what happened. And he

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goes, well, Lori, I just don't have good news for you.

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And I said, what do you mean? He goes, they don't come back

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once they leave like this. He's not coming

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back. And in that moment, I had two feelings.

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One, I was gonna strangle him, and he would die in my car because I

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did not believe him. And then the other one I had,

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there was just something that made me not believe him.

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And I looked to the left, and I looked up and I saw the cross

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on the church, which would make me cry. And I got a different message.

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And it said, he's wrong. Don't believe

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him. And so when people call me and they're like, my friend

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Susie said, da, da, da, da, da. And I'm like, who the hell is Susie?

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Well, she's my friend. I've known her since first grade. I'm like, is she married?

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Yeah, she's married. Well, she's been divorced three times.

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And I'm like, why are you listening to her? She's been divorced three times.

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And I'm not judging her. But if you want to learn how

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to build a pen. Are you going to talk to someone who built a mug?

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No. You want to find you want to go to the best source to get

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the information you need. So I stopped talking

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to divorced people, and I said, I want to talk to people who are married.

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And I found those people above the age of 65 and 70. And I

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did everything they said, and they guided me. I mean, I was psycho.

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I need help. I'm like, calling them all the time. And I had a bunch.

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So over time, I got data, things started happening,

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and he started coming closer. But at one point,

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before he came around my. This woman from.

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Cause I did stand up, but I wasn't doing standup. Cause I kind of quit.

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I gave all my shows away to several comedians because

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I just. I wasn't funny anymore. My funny was about my family and

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being grateful for it. And without that,

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I can't talk about it. And I wanted to get

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a TV show. I got a TV show. It didn't work out. So I was

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kind of like, I already did it. I'm done. So this lady

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calls me and she's like, hey, I'm Patricia,

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and I've got this program. And, you know, you're really funny, and,

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you know, it's teaching kids. And I've got three bullies, and they're in Catholic

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school, and they're just mean. And I want you to teach this class to them

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because you're going to be able to help them. And I was like, you know,

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instant reaction was like, what?

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Like, who are you? I mean, I knew who she was, but I'd never talked

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to her. And she's kind of like, she's younger than me, but she was,

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like, put together, you know, she was a businesswoman, and she had.

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She just was always creating programs. And I'm like, listen, I hear you.

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You want me to help other people. But I got a lot. I'm. I don't

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even know what to feed my kids. In half an hour. I can't even take

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care of myself, let alone my children. You want me to teach some program

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to other people's kids? Half hour away from here in Compton?

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Excuse my French. F. No, thank you, but no, thank you.

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And I'm like, I'm sorry, I don't mean to be rude, but I gotta go.

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Bye. Click right. I'm telling you, this is how bad I

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was. And so it was like a couple months went by,

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and, you know, you wake up to pee. Those are the best time to

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get messages from God. And I woke up to pee.

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And of course, here. And I didn't know it then, but this message came through,

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and it was loud and clear. And I'd already heard that voice in other situations,

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which we can go back and talk about it, but this. This podcast will be,

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like, ten hours. Um, this voice said,

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you will teach that class. And I knew exactly

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what was talking, what that voice was talking about. So in the morning,

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I had to find this lady's number, and I called her, and I said,

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God called. He said, I have to teach her class. And she.

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She didn't say, what. What do you mean, God called?

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No, she said, can you start in January? Like, it. Like,

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I was set up, right? So I was like, all right,

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yeah. I just kept saying yes. So she trained me. What did

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she do? She gave me this book that said love for life. And I'm

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like, oh, God, I don't know how to teach. I don't know how to do

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this. And she's like, well, you were a comedian forever. You'll be fine. You did

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it. Like, thousands of people. I. You know, my biggest audience was,

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like, 7,000 people in New Zealand in front of the queen.

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I could do this, right? So I said, all right, I can do

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this. But I just wasn't confident, and I didn't feel good. So she

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goes, just start. And so she would bring me to classes. I would guest talk

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for, like, two minutes. And she's like, good, you're done. January.

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Bye. Bye. And so January, I entered my first

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class. It's just an hour, an hour, once a week. And so I went

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in and I started teaching. It was. It was laid out for me. I just

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had to follow the program. And so I started doing it. And I

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would sit there and talk about being grateful, and I'm like,

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uh, oh, I'm not doing this right.

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I am not living my life in gratitude. And I'm telling these sixth

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graders that they have to do that. This is the way for happiness.

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So I was, like, a fraud, right? So I

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started buying into this thing I was teaching, right?

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Like, oh, so maybe I'm gonna be grateful. Maybe I'm

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gonna do this, maybe I'm gonna do that. So that's what I did. And I

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got really good at teaching the class, and I. I taught it for seven years.

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In the end. Yeah. And so somewhere,

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my husband came home in 2000, the beginning of 2015,

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and I. I just. I kept doing the class.

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And then one day, I was like, I'm going to teach a class.

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I'm going to teach a class to women in my local area, at the local

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school. Like, there's this place called South Bay Adult school. I'm going to go there.

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So I went over there, and the guy knew about this program, Love for Life.

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Um, he didn't bring it in, but he thought, this is a good program.

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So he met with me, and I said, I want to teach a class.

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And he's. I gave him my resume. And he goes, well, what's the class about?

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And I told him to women. Adult women. I want to teach them about love

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and marriage. And when things go wonky, here's what to do.

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And he's like, well, you have a. You have a marketing degree,

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and you also have, you know, a graduate degree, but you

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don't have any teaching skills. And I said, yeah, but,

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you know, I know how to teach. I'm a comedian. And he

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was like, I'm not going to hire you without teaching degree. And I'm

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like, are you serious? I have to go back to school to be a teacher,

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just to teach this class? And he goes, if you want to work here.

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And I was like. I was devastated. So I went home, and back

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in my comedy days, I used to make fun of life experts because I

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had a pretty good life, right? Everything had gone really well

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for me up until 2012. So I was like,

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now I'm making. Now I'm going to be a life coach. And I joined a

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coaching program, and I went to school twice a week, and I

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became a coach. And so during my coaching program, someone had seen

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my Life expert site and said, ooh,

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you should call your program the wife Expert. And I

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was like, yeah. So I looked

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it up, and it was available. So I was like, well,

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God be damned, here we go. Let's go. So I built

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the site. I'm pretty good at that. Let me just interrupt right there, because you

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are also the husband expert because you help wives and husbands,

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right? But not at the same time. I have people call me. Can you do

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couples coaching? No. I do not believe couples coaching works.

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I do not believe couples therapy works. I'm highly against it.

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You cannot sit next to your spouse with three people. And that's

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the rule of three, which I frown upon anyway. My daughter was like, I'm gonna

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get a roommate with two other girls. I'm like, bad idea. You do not have

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three. Three people. It does not work. Two people in a marriage. Here comes the

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sorry. Here comes the sorry. For those who are not listening or

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who can't see, I just flipped you off. So I use my middle finger.

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But you cannot have three. It doesn't work. You have to have four.

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You have to have equal partners. So you help husbands who

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have wives that are going through a midlife crisis.

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Oh, yeah, right. I have more success with husbands

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than I do with wives. Well, do you

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think it's because wives are more likely to resolve their crisis

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sooner and come want to reconcile?

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No. Oh, no, no. I, I,

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no. Because it's quite the opposite. Women are tough. When a woman decides

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I'm walking away from this, they actually have this

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thing called the walk away wife. When a woman turns and says, I'm done,

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she's already begged and prodded and, you know, sent videos.

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Please do this to me. I need this. So when the husband is

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left, do you know what he does? He turns into a puddle.

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And he doesn't do anything. He just sits there and waits for her to come

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back and make me meet someone else. And the wife has to change,

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but she's not interested in changing because she's perfect. So she goes off and

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he's left. So when I get a husband on my hands and

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I say, here's what we're going to do, he goes, okay,

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let's do it. And I'm like, okay, we're going to do this.

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Okay. Okay. We're going to send your wife this text.

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And before you send it, I want a bubble. And he'll go,

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oh, shoot, I already sent it. You already sent the text?

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Yeah, you told me to send it. Oh, God love that.

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So a wife, I'll say, let's send this text. And she'll

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say, okay. And then a few minutes later, I'll be like, wait a minute.

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Didn't you send the text? No, I have to think about

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it. What do you have to think about? Well, I'm not

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sure, because if we send the text, he might feel this way.

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And I say, why are you guessing about

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what he's thinking and feeling? He's left you.

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We don't give a crap what he's thinking and feeling. We are

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who we are. So we're going to send this text, this kind,

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wonderful, wonderfully written text.

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You're going to send that to him. And it's going to work because that's the

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intention we're setting here right now. And it takes a while for them.

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And, and what happens usually is they finally send it,

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and they're like, he's not going to respond. And I'll say, can you

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show me your crystal ball? Where's your crystal ball? You just said

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he's not going to respond. How do you know that? Well, I know

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him. Really? You know Him? How do you know him?

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Well, I know what he's going to do. No, you don't. He left you.

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Did you know he was going to leave you? And they go, yeah,

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you're right. Okay, good point. So you want me to send this text.

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Yes, Five minutes ago. Send it now, and I'm not talking to you until you

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send it. Okay, I sent it. Thank you. For what? You know

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they're paying you for this. Advice, which is insane.

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I have people pay me to be on my monthly program, and they'll

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come to me and then they'll argue with me. And I'm like,

438
00:25:55,618 --> 00:25:59,050
you came to me. It's not like this is my first rodeo.

439
00:25:59,130 --> 00:26:02,790
I do this all day. How do you know? Are you sure?

440
00:26:03,380 --> 00:26:07,148
And they're so worried about sending one text,

441
00:26:07,324 --> 00:26:11,052
which in the end, I get women who call me and they're like,

442
00:26:11,156 --> 00:26:14,972
oh, he's not gonna respond. And I say, send the text.

443
00:26:15,036 --> 00:26:18,092
He's not gonna respond. Lori, can you just send the text,

444
00:26:18,156 --> 00:26:21,356
please? Because we have another 20 minutes on our call, and I wanna respond

445
00:26:21,388 --> 00:26:25,004
to his next text. Okay, I'm sending it, but he's not gonna respond.

446
00:26:25,132 --> 00:26:28,412
And then, you know, when people go. So what ends up happening is

447
00:26:28,436 --> 00:26:31,794
he responds. And I hear, oh, my God. Oh, my God. I'm like, what's wrong?

448
00:26:31,892 --> 00:26:35,650
And they're like, he responded. I'm like, of course he did. Like,

449
00:26:35,950 --> 00:26:39,270
I know what I'm doing, believe me. But what happens is people

450
00:26:39,310 --> 00:26:42,406
are just so doubtful and they don't believe. And,

451
00:26:42,478 --> 00:26:45,926
you know, they're. I'm Catholic and. Right. You know, Easter just passed,

452
00:26:45,958 --> 00:26:48,902
and, you know, Jesus died on the cross and he had those holes in his

453
00:26:48,926 --> 00:26:52,086
hands, and he had an apostle that said, I will see it.

454
00:26:52,158 --> 00:26:55,478
Sorry. I will believe it when I see it. If I.

455
00:26:55,534 --> 00:26:58,526
If I'll believe it when I see those holes in his hands that he died

456
00:26:58,558 --> 00:27:02,158
in. Yeah. Because he came back to life. Right. So it's not like

457
00:27:02,214 --> 00:27:04,770
that. And I teach people the opposite.

458
00:27:05,750 --> 00:27:08,410
I will see it when I believe it,

459
00:27:09,750 --> 00:27:12,690
you believe it, and then it happens.

460
00:27:13,030 --> 00:27:16,910
Right. That's the difference. That's what I teach.

461
00:27:17,070 --> 00:27:20,142
You believe he's coming home, and then

462
00:27:20,166 --> 00:27:22,890
you do everything you're supposed to do. And he will,

463
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:26,776
but that if you don't believe he's coming home, you're probably

464
00:27:26,808 --> 00:27:30,536
gonna make that happen. Mm. It's almost like manifesting

465
00:27:30,568 --> 00:27:33,500
it a hundred percent. Absolutely.

466
00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:37,224
And I was there, and I know what that's like. Waffle, waffle, waffle.

467
00:27:37,272 --> 00:27:40,712
I'm never gonna come home. And if I have hope, he's gonna come home and

468
00:27:40,736 --> 00:27:44,392
he doesn't. I failed. Right? And there's that.

469
00:27:44,416 --> 00:27:48,072
You know, you don't wanna make a mistake. You don't wanna be the loser who

470
00:27:48,096 --> 00:27:50,904
holds out for this. And everyone's like, what are you doing? Why are you wasting

471
00:27:50,952 --> 00:27:54,582
your time? And I kept going, but now I'm 32. No. How old was

472
00:27:54,606 --> 00:27:58,166
I? Old. I was older. Now I'm this age

473
00:27:58,318 --> 00:28:00,806
now what? Oh my God. I'm wasting all this time.

474
00:28:00,958 --> 00:28:04,758
So it. You just gotta get over that. And you have to focus

475
00:28:04,814 --> 00:28:08,278
in on you and having fun. I made so many friends.

476
00:28:08,414 --> 00:28:12,130
What do you do? There's a lot of them now that are doing no contact.

477
00:28:12,590 --> 00:28:16,214
Like on our. In our groups, a lot of the couples

478
00:28:16,262 --> 00:28:19,662
are no contact. So they really had really maybe no way to

479
00:28:19,766 --> 00:28:23,246
send that text. What do you do then? I don't

480
00:28:23,278 --> 00:28:26,814
believe in no contact. I. It depends. You know,

481
00:28:26,822 --> 00:28:30,590
we talk about this. I have a community center and then I do a group

482
00:28:30,630 --> 00:28:34,366
call twice a month. So on my group calls, people will say,

483
00:28:34,518 --> 00:28:37,182
should I do no contact? And then I back up and I go, well,

484
00:28:37,206 --> 00:28:40,174
what's happened and what's coming up?

485
00:28:40,342 --> 00:28:43,982
Right? Because if there's something coming up, you sending

486
00:28:44,046 --> 00:28:47,752
especially like their birthday or, you know, anniversary,

487
00:28:47,816 --> 00:28:50,120
it's kind of hard. You got to kind of play it. But if you go

488
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:53,704
dead silent, he's sitting over there with his own crystal ball going,

489
00:28:53,792 --> 00:28:57,032
she hates me. She's never going to talk to me again. My kids have

490
00:28:57,056 --> 00:29:00,008
disowned me. They hate me. I guess I'll go this way.

491
00:29:00,144 --> 00:29:04,168
Yeah, right. We don't want that. We need to sprinkle in

492
00:29:04,224 --> 00:29:07,432
some activity. Right? And I have something

493
00:29:07,456 --> 00:29:10,600
called circle the wagon where we teach you how

494
00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:13,874
to go out and make nicey nice.

495
00:29:13,922 --> 00:29:17,070
Those relationships that you think people hate you,

496
00:29:17,930 --> 00:29:21,410
like the in laws or his brother that you never

497
00:29:21,450 --> 00:29:25,586
really talked to. I do that because I think that's really important.

498
00:29:25,738 --> 00:29:28,550
Oh, yeah, yeah.

499
00:29:28,970 --> 00:29:32,146
Plus, they were your family for so many years. They are

500
00:29:32,218 --> 00:29:35,586
your family. Oh, they are your family. Exactly. When you get married

501
00:29:35,618 --> 00:29:39,256
to someone, all those people you married,

502
00:29:39,368 --> 00:29:43,192
all of them. Just because your husband decides to run

503
00:29:43,216 --> 00:29:46,376
off with Susie Q doesn't mean your relationship

504
00:29:46,408 --> 00:29:50,312
with any of those people changes. But people will cut themselves right

505
00:29:50,336 --> 00:29:53,544
out of the picture. They put the gun right to

506
00:29:53,552 --> 00:29:56,936
their own head and shoot. And I'm like, what are you doing?

507
00:29:57,088 --> 00:30:00,280
And remember, I'm a coach. I am not a therapist.

508
00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:03,640
So I have a right. Just like a baseball coach. People come

509
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:07,150
to me. I want to be the best baseball player ever. All right,

510
00:30:07,190 --> 00:30:10,334
let's go. You got to get out of the dugout. You can't be sitting in

511
00:30:10,342 --> 00:30:13,006
your car crying. Come on, let's go. We got a mound to get on,

512
00:30:13,078 --> 00:30:16,350
right. Got to get up here. Got to hold that bat. You got to

513
00:30:16,390 --> 00:30:19,150
turn a little bit. You got to make sure you're thinking about this, thinking about

514
00:30:19,190 --> 00:30:22,686
that. Put your shoulders up a little bit and power through.

515
00:30:22,838 --> 00:30:23,770
Home run.

516
00:30:26,390 --> 00:30:29,614
That's a coach. That's a great coach. That is totally

517
00:30:29,662 --> 00:30:33,214
a good coach. That is a great, great way to look at it. And a

518
00:30:33,222 --> 00:30:38,126
lot of people need that. They need that coach level

519
00:30:38,278 --> 00:30:42,078
versus therapy. Two totally different things, you know? So let's just.

520
00:30:42,134 --> 00:30:45,934
Let's just define it. What is therapy? Therapy is when you've had some trauma

521
00:30:45,982 --> 00:30:49,438
in your life or if you've been hurt

522
00:30:49,534 --> 00:30:52,910
deeply, like you've been raped or, you know, your husband cheated on you

523
00:30:52,950 --> 00:30:55,982
10 years ago. I have women who come and they're like, my husband cheated on

524
00:30:56,006 --> 00:30:59,396
me and this and that, and I'll walk them down the path. But if there's

525
00:30:59,428 --> 00:31:01,800
some problems and I can tell when people are stuck,

526
00:31:02,380 --> 00:31:05,716
we are our biggest problem. People will say to me,

527
00:31:05,788 --> 00:31:08,532
lori, well, what's. I'm going to be on this for a while. Like, well,

528
00:31:08,556 --> 00:31:10,564
how long is this going to take? What's my biggest problem? What am I going

529
00:31:10,572 --> 00:31:13,812
to. You. We. We are our

530
00:31:13,836 --> 00:31:17,524
biggest problems because we got a whole big thing of television

531
00:31:17,652 --> 00:31:21,172
up in our head that is constantly talking to us. We got

532
00:31:21,196 --> 00:31:24,396
a good cop, bad copy. Yes. No. What do I do? How do I figure

533
00:31:24,428 --> 00:31:28,400
this out? Constantly. Our subconscious is the driver.

534
00:31:28,740 --> 00:31:32,300
So the conscious that shifts all the time, the little monkey brain

535
00:31:32,460 --> 00:31:36,396
that gets us into trouble and makes up stuff with this fake crystal

536
00:31:36,428 --> 00:31:39,240
ball, and that's what we gotta stop.

537
00:31:41,060 --> 00:31:44,828
Yep. So now you're back to therapy,

538
00:31:45,004 --> 00:31:47,900
I guess. Now you're a coach. And therapy does that.

539
00:31:47,940 --> 00:31:51,590
Therapy goes through, you know, just your trauma from childhood,

540
00:31:51,930 --> 00:31:55,762
and then coaches help you move. It's more of

541
00:31:55,786 --> 00:31:59,170
like, what do you want? I help you get what you want. I do have

542
00:31:59,210 --> 00:32:02,162
women call me and say, I want to get divorced, and I want to do

543
00:32:02,186 --> 00:32:04,990
it with kindness. And I help them do that.

544
00:32:06,410 --> 00:32:09,682
Really, if they ask me, I will help them,

545
00:32:09,786 --> 00:32:12,914
because whatever you want, I make it. We just have to

546
00:32:12,922 --> 00:32:15,850
do everything with kindness. That's my rule. Mm.

547
00:32:16,830 --> 00:32:20,342
Yeah. Mm. I even have a burner

548
00:32:20,406 --> 00:32:24,118
phone, and it's a little secret thing. I put a. I don't

549
00:32:24,134 --> 00:32:27,382
tell many people about it, but since everyone who's coming on here is in the

550
00:32:27,406 --> 00:32:30,454
position that I was in, I do Have a burner phone.

551
00:32:30,582 --> 00:32:34,086
I will never write a negative text. It is always

552
00:32:34,158 --> 00:32:37,302
positive, but it moves people. Like, I call

553
00:32:37,326 --> 00:32:40,438
it seed planting. I plant seeds with the burner.

554
00:32:40,534 --> 00:32:43,800
Burner foam. And they're always kind.

555
00:32:44,740 --> 00:32:48,060
Are you using your phone to reach their spouses?

556
00:32:48,220 --> 00:32:51,772
Correct. Oh, okay. But ready? It's the

557
00:32:51,796 --> 00:32:55,164
secret. I can hear that it's the secret,

558
00:32:55,252 --> 00:32:57,932
because I don't. If anyone found out about it, it'd be terrible. But this is.

559
00:32:57,956 --> 00:33:01,916
I know this is a very small crowd, like the midlife crowd, who. It's not.

560
00:33:02,068 --> 00:33:05,340
We've got about eight viewers. No, I'm kidding. What I'm

561
00:33:05,380 --> 00:33:08,540
saying is we've got thousands. I better edit this

562
00:33:08,580 --> 00:33:11,074
part out. I'll move the part about the burner found.

563
00:33:11,212 --> 00:33:14,694
Okay, but what I'm saying is at the midlife crisis,

564
00:33:14,742 --> 00:33:18,130
it's not like if I talked about this at my kids school,

565
00:33:18,430 --> 00:33:21,174
big two people might go, oh, yeah, I know about that.

566
00:33:21,342 --> 00:33:25,366
It's a small audience. Oh yeah. It's not mainstream.

567
00:33:25,478 --> 00:33:28,982
No, it's not. And I'm okay if you leave it in. I don't mind

568
00:33:29,006 --> 00:33:32,326
that because I'm not talking about your crowd is small or my crowd is.

569
00:33:32,398 --> 00:33:35,510
I'm talking about the midlife crisis crowd is small. Yeah, well,

570
00:33:35,550 --> 00:33:39,520
sadly, I mean, just before today, I got a call

571
00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:43,328
from a gal in Texas, you know,

572
00:33:43,384 --> 00:33:47,040
another mlc, really bad, long term relationship,

573
00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:50,832
really sad situation. And, and she even said

574
00:33:50,856 --> 00:33:54,112
it's just epidemic, you know, it really is. And that's,

575
00:33:54,176 --> 00:33:57,520
that's why we're here today, to really let people know that they're not

576
00:33:57,560 --> 00:34:00,848
alone. And maybe one day,

577
00:34:00,904 --> 00:34:04,740
maybe, I don't know, 30 years from now, this won't even be a thing,

578
00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:08,156
you know, or. Maybe it'll be worse. Midlife crisis,

579
00:34:08,188 --> 00:34:11,708
they'll just be buying a, a new Prius or something. What I'm

580
00:34:11,724 --> 00:34:14,988
afraid of, and this is just a, A thing, like I don't, why I don't

581
00:34:15,004 --> 00:34:18,476
talk about it too much is if it, if midlife crisis goes

582
00:34:18,508 --> 00:34:22,172
too mainstream, someone could cheat and be like, oh, I'm just

583
00:34:22,196 --> 00:34:25,852
having a midlife crisis. Right, right. And that would be their excuse.

584
00:34:25,996 --> 00:34:29,196
And that to me is horrific. I think about that.

585
00:34:29,348 --> 00:34:33,020
Yeah, no, that's true. And you know what? A lot of times people

586
00:34:33,060 --> 00:34:37,196
have said that they'll, you know, there will be a spouse, that somebody

587
00:34:37,228 --> 00:34:40,092
will say, well, they're, they're having a midlife crisis.

588
00:34:40,236 --> 00:34:42,956
And, and you'll get that person in the crowd that'll say,

589
00:34:43,028 --> 00:34:46,360
yeah, but maybe they're just using that as an excuse, you know,

590
00:34:47,460 --> 00:34:50,236
but. Because Midlife crisis. I mean, you saw with your husband,

591
00:34:50,348 --> 00:34:54,060
probably, you know, levels of depression. He was depressed, it sound like a few

592
00:34:54,100 --> 00:34:57,532
years. He was sad before all that. So it really is

593
00:34:57,556 --> 00:35:00,796
a mental health situation. You know, I wish

594
00:35:00,828 --> 00:35:04,660
we could just have it addressed somehow, you know, so that it just didn't,

595
00:35:04,820 --> 00:35:08,244
so that we could see it before it happens. Sort of like, you know,

596
00:35:08,332 --> 00:35:12,004
cancer now, sort of like breast cancer. Before we had mammograms, you just

597
00:35:12,012 --> 00:35:15,400
had, sort of, had to wait around until you were really, really sick.

598
00:35:16,060 --> 00:35:19,364
You know, now at least we can have mammograms, biopsies,

599
00:35:19,412 --> 00:35:23,188
ultrasounds, ways to see that cancer before it

600
00:35:23,244 --> 00:35:27,320
happens. So either. Well, let's, let's talk about that. So your

601
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:31,080
children, all the women who are listening to this, think about your daughters or

602
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:35,000
your sons who may or may not be getting married in the near future when

603
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:38,632
they start dating someone. And you say, oh, tell me about your parents. And they

604
00:35:38,656 --> 00:35:41,832
go, oh, my dad left my mom. Oh my mom left my

605
00:35:41,856 --> 00:35:45,032
dad. That is a sure sign that your child is

606
00:35:45,056 --> 00:35:47,820
going to be facing that same thing. Yep.

607
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:52,360
And same thing for my kids. And I have sat my children down and

608
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:56,432
I say, if you ever even think about leaving

609
00:35:56,496 --> 00:35:59,760
your spouse, if you get married, I will kill you.

610
00:35:59,880 --> 00:36:03,696
It's never going to happen. And if I'm in heaven, I will haunt you

611
00:36:03,848 --> 00:36:07,280
because that's not going to happen. So I'm going to be on it.

612
00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:11,024
As long as I'm living, I will be on it that it never happens because

613
00:36:11,112 --> 00:36:14,272
my children face trauma. And that's another thing that I teach

614
00:36:14,336 --> 00:36:17,424
because I made a lot of mistakes. So when people are like,

615
00:36:17,512 --> 00:36:21,040
we're going to tell the kids tonight. And I'm like, okay. So I guide the

616
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:24,320
wife exactly what to do and what to say during

617
00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:28,496
and then afterwards so that those kids thrive

618
00:36:28,608 --> 00:36:32,288
better and really understand what just happened. Because that is so important.

619
00:36:32,344 --> 00:36:35,872
Because I excuse my French, screwed up. I could have

620
00:36:35,896 --> 00:36:39,088
chosen a better word. I screwed up. I did a lot of things wrong

621
00:36:39,104 --> 00:36:42,420
in that area. And you know what? My oldest has ADHD.

622
00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:46,288
Not that he's, he sees two different psychologists. And he

623
00:36:46,344 --> 00:36:49,760
changed at age 13, became a different person. And my

624
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:53,808
middle, yeah, like to this day he struggles

625
00:36:53,824 --> 00:36:57,632
with a lot because I was a mess as a mother.

626
00:36:57,696 --> 00:37:00,864
I was a mess. I was a stay at home mom and then a comedian.

627
00:37:00,912 --> 00:37:04,112
And I was always home during the day. And then when I traveled, I was

628
00:37:04,136 --> 00:37:07,060
gone a little bit. But my middle kid,

629
00:37:07,640 --> 00:37:10,528
she's got anxiety and I had asked her,

630
00:37:10,584 --> 00:37:12,864
this is a few years ago, I said, why do you think you have anxiety?

631
00:37:12,912 --> 00:37:16,120
And she goes, really? And I said.

632
00:37:16,980 --> 00:37:19,640
I said, what can I do? And she goes, nothing, Mom.

633
00:37:20,020 --> 00:37:24,252
Yeah, but here's the deal, and I want everyone to hear this. My youngest

634
00:37:24,316 --> 00:37:27,884
was 6 at the time, and he. I lied

635
00:37:27,932 --> 00:37:31,004
to him. Where's dad? Why is dad downstairs? Oh,

636
00:37:31,052 --> 00:37:34,620
Dad's sleeping in there because he's working so hard and

637
00:37:34,660 --> 00:37:37,980
he's got, blah, blah, blah. Then when dad moved out. Why did dad move out?

638
00:37:38,020 --> 00:37:41,596
What's going on? Oh, Daddy has to work. It's so loud here. All the kids

639
00:37:41,628 --> 00:37:44,562
that come over here, we have so much fun here. Daddy just really needs to

640
00:37:44,586 --> 00:37:47,430
work to pay for the house. And he was okay.

641
00:37:48,090 --> 00:37:52,322
About five years ago, that child, who's happy

642
00:37:52,386 --> 00:37:56,530
and well adjusted and amazing, was sitting at dinner and said,

643
00:37:56,570 --> 00:37:59,842
oh, dad, you remember when you were sick or when you had to work

644
00:37:59,866 --> 00:38:03,010
really hard and you moved into that place? And everyone looked at him

645
00:38:03,050 --> 00:38:06,562
like, what? And I was like, yeah, do you

646
00:38:06,586 --> 00:38:09,710
remember that? And they all kind of rode with me.

647
00:38:10,130 --> 00:38:13,450
He. I don't know. To this day, I don't think my son really

648
00:38:13,490 --> 00:38:17,670
realizes, my youngest, that dad was gone for two and a half years.

649
00:38:18,370 --> 00:38:21,030
Well, does he watch YouTube? He's gonna see your show.

650
00:38:21,490 --> 00:38:25,306
No, he. They don't care. They never watched my comedy, and they don't watch this.

651
00:38:25,458 --> 00:38:28,826
They think I'm. They think I'm an idiot. You know, kids think your mom's

652
00:38:28,858 --> 00:38:32,026
an idiot. That's true. So, no, they don't watch. They don't. They don't care.

653
00:38:32,098 --> 00:38:35,402
They don't understand it. No, but that's my point. And I

654
00:38:35,426 --> 00:38:38,996
tell women that your children are like precious,

655
00:38:39,188 --> 00:38:41,924
tiny little things that you must take care of,

656
00:38:42,092 --> 00:38:45,204
mind their brains and treat them

657
00:38:45,292 --> 00:38:48,372
so well so that they make it through this time.

658
00:38:48,556 --> 00:38:52,724
Because I screwed that up. I shared way too much with my oldest

659
00:38:52,852 --> 00:38:56,920
and put him through all kinds of trauma. Big mistake.

660
00:38:57,660 --> 00:39:01,012
Big mistake. Learn from me. Don't do that.

661
00:39:01,116 --> 00:39:04,512
You know, I think everybody does the best they know how at

662
00:39:04,536 --> 00:39:08,096
the time, and. And that's why it's so important to get it out there and

663
00:39:08,168 --> 00:39:11,520
so that people can be a little more proactive and know what to do if

664
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:15,500
they see signs. How about your husband? How's he doing now?

665
00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:20,112
You know, it's interesting. He's. He, you know,

666
00:39:20,136 --> 00:39:24,000
you think he was always depressed, and I really think depression plays into

667
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:27,264
the fact of a midlife crisis. I think that's kind of

668
00:39:27,272 --> 00:39:31,360
where it stems from. But he

669
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:34,064
taught. If you say to him, you know, what do you want? What are you

670
00:39:34,072 --> 00:39:37,152
doing with your life? He'll be like, yeah, I'm 55 and

671
00:39:37,176 --> 00:39:40,672
I'm not really sure. He's got his hands on a lot of cookie jars

672
00:39:40,736 --> 00:39:44,368
for work, but after this whole thing, he lost the one job

673
00:39:44,424 --> 00:39:47,968
he thought he was gonna have until the day he died. So that was very

674
00:39:48,024 --> 00:39:52,176
hard for him because that was this medical supply

675
00:39:52,208 --> 00:39:55,440
job that he had. And the woman that he was having the affair with

676
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:59,692
worked there. And so he ended up losing his job from there. Thank the Lord,

677
00:39:59,836 --> 00:40:02,940
because I wouldn't. I don't know if we would have survived that. But he lost

678
00:40:02,980 --> 00:40:06,588
his job there and, you know, he. He's probably had

679
00:40:06,644 --> 00:40:09,964
maybe 10 jobs since, and nothing ever sticks.

680
00:40:10,092 --> 00:40:14,140
But, you know, he. He's. He's happy

681
00:40:14,300 --> 00:40:18,300
and he. He calls himself a consultant, and he

682
00:40:18,340 --> 00:40:21,980
really enjoys what he does, but he just. He'll say, I'm still

683
00:40:22,020 --> 00:40:26,414
looking for what I want to do with my life, and he's okay

684
00:40:26,462 --> 00:40:30,158
with it. And that's the part that you. I think after

685
00:40:30,214 --> 00:40:33,050
the crisis, when everyone comes back together,

686
00:40:34,150 --> 00:40:37,518
you look at each other and you say, you are not

687
00:40:37,574 --> 00:40:41,694
perfect, but I like you anyway, and I'm

688
00:40:41,742 --> 00:40:45,838
accepting of that. And we're gonna still move forward together because this

689
00:40:45,894 --> 00:40:49,470
perception of the green grass doesn't exist. And if

690
00:40:49,510 --> 00:40:53,976
someone's always looking for that, they're going to be sad and fearful

691
00:40:54,008 --> 00:40:57,272
and a mess for the rest of their lives. But if a woman can look

692
00:40:57,296 --> 00:41:00,584
at her husband and say, I don't like these. I don't like that you drink.

693
00:41:00,712 --> 00:41:03,928
I don't like that you're this way. I mean, take women, you know, I don't

694
00:41:03,944 --> 00:41:07,288
like that you're dating a bunch of women. That's not okay. But let's

695
00:41:07,304 --> 00:41:11,640
say he had a problem with sex or addictions in some way, or gambling.

696
00:41:11,800 --> 00:41:15,928
These are his problem. They're not yours.

697
00:41:16,104 --> 00:41:20,152
And so being married to someone who has that kind of problem, a lot

698
00:41:20,176 --> 00:41:24,136
of women will be like, ah, it is my problem because we're

699
00:41:24,168 --> 00:41:27,544
married and I have no, you know, you're making it your problem.

700
00:41:27,632 --> 00:41:31,144
It's his problem. You are the sideline. You're walking

701
00:41:31,192 --> 00:41:34,248
beside him. And that's what we forget to do.

702
00:41:34,304 --> 00:41:37,580
We make problems that aren't there. Ours.

703
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:41,704
I remember you had a guest on that. Her husband,

704
00:41:41,832 --> 00:41:45,672
actually, before he committed suicide, before he took his life, he. He said

705
00:41:45,696 --> 00:41:48,590
to her, you have to fix me or something to that effect,

706
00:41:49,290 --> 00:41:52,738
you know. And it's like, you know, you gotta fix

707
00:41:52,754 --> 00:41:56,018
yourself. Really, it's so. Yeah,

708
00:41:56,034 --> 00:41:59,746
I know exactly who you're talking about. She wrote a book about, called Abuse.

709
00:41:59,858 --> 00:42:04,194
That was. Yeah, that was a really sad story,

710
00:42:04,362 --> 00:42:07,746
you know, because that's what happens in. If midlife crisis isn't

711
00:42:07,778 --> 00:42:11,618
treated well. People. Sometimes people

712
00:42:11,674 --> 00:42:15,742
just hit a. Hit a brick wall and don't know how to go forward and.

713
00:42:15,846 --> 00:42:19,438
And just get themselves out of what they're dealing with, you know?

714
00:42:19,574 --> 00:42:23,358
Right. And as a wife, he just felt, you know, he just

715
00:42:23,494 --> 00:42:26,830
couldn't get himself out. You're right. And as her.

716
00:42:26,870 --> 00:42:30,958
You're exactly right. That was his problem. So as the woman,

717
00:42:31,094 --> 00:42:34,702
what does she do in that situation? She would get angry

718
00:42:34,846 --> 00:42:38,494
and shut him out and ignore him and leave him alone for a

719
00:42:38,502 --> 00:42:41,552
long time. And that's not our job.

720
00:42:41,736 --> 00:42:45,808
Our job is to be open and there and

721
00:42:45,944 --> 00:42:49,424
listen and be compassionate. Not to judge,

722
00:42:49,552 --> 00:42:53,152
not to be his jury, but to let him live and figure this

723
00:42:53,176 --> 00:42:56,432
out. And I think that's what's missing in

724
00:42:56,456 --> 00:42:59,776
this world is compassion and love. And it's

725
00:42:59,808 --> 00:43:03,460
hard to get there when someone. Excuse my French, fucks you over. And patience.

726
00:43:04,440 --> 00:43:08,276
And patience. Yeah. So it's all the things that we learned

727
00:43:08,308 --> 00:43:11,380
when we were younger that we forget, and then we get to be adults and

728
00:43:11,420 --> 00:43:14,996
suddenly requires us to be there. Well, does your husband,

729
00:43:15,028 --> 00:43:18,612
though, have. Does he realize that. How fortunate he is to

730
00:43:18,636 --> 00:43:21,120
have saved his family? He's back with them.

731
00:43:23,020 --> 00:43:26,020
Does he realize how fortunate he is that we're all together?

732
00:43:26,140 --> 00:43:29,812
Yeah. I hear he. Over the

733
00:43:29,836 --> 00:43:33,548
years, he's kind of said things to me, but my greatest things are

734
00:43:33,604 --> 00:43:37,400
when I'm next to him and I hear him talking about me,

735
00:43:38,340 --> 00:43:41,708
and he says, you know, I wouldn't be here without

736
00:43:41,764 --> 00:43:45,292
her. Aww. She saved our family. And that's.

737
00:43:45,356 --> 00:43:48,380
That's kind of what you have to think about,

738
00:43:48,420 --> 00:43:51,932
right? That's huge. Because we think, like, yeah, well, what am I

739
00:43:51,956 --> 00:43:55,868
getting out of this? What am I getting. And the truth is nothing. You're getting

740
00:43:55,924 --> 00:43:59,196
absolutely freaking nothing. He left. He's having an affair.

741
00:43:59,228 --> 00:44:03,132
You think it's all fun and dandy, but it's not. It is not. It's very

742
00:44:03,156 --> 00:44:06,284
painful because of what he did to you. If he's.

743
00:44:06,332 --> 00:44:09,500
If he. If you married a good person, he's in there,

744
00:44:09,620 --> 00:44:13,020
but he's just blocking what he did. And your job is

745
00:44:13,060 --> 00:44:16,172
to just let him go and figure it out, and you just do

746
00:44:16,196 --> 00:44:18,680
your own thing away from him.

747
00:44:19,860 --> 00:44:23,004
Well, do you want to introduce to your cat in case I use video?

748
00:44:23,092 --> 00:44:26,492
Oh, my God. It's giving you a kiss. I was trying to ignore him.

749
00:44:26,596 --> 00:44:29,900
Oh, gosh. This is a girl. She's a cat. Yeah, she's.

750
00:44:29,980 --> 00:44:33,680
Oh, she wants A little screen time. She's so cute.

751
00:44:34,020 --> 00:44:37,244
So, okay, Laurie, you have got, you've got the Wife expert dot com.

752
00:44:37,332 --> 00:44:40,220
I think you, you've got something like an app coming out, is that right?

753
00:44:40,260 --> 00:44:43,468
I do. I have an app coming out. It is a.

754
00:44:43,604 --> 00:44:47,980
Now she's pushing the computer. Yeah, it's, it's called the Wife Expert

755
00:44:48,060 --> 00:44:51,510
and I really should change the name of it. Someone was telling me that

756
00:44:51,550 --> 00:44:55,174
today because I don't know, I've got to figure. Out a branding perspective.

757
00:44:55,222 --> 00:44:58,918
It's perfect because people don't have to think of another name because otherwise

758
00:44:58,934 --> 00:45:01,478
they're going to go the Google Play store and go, wait, what is it?

759
00:45:01,534 --> 00:45:04,130
The Wife Expert has a thing and then it's a different name.

760
00:45:05,070 --> 00:45:08,342
Yeah, it's funny and I agree with you. But you know,

761
00:45:08,366 --> 00:45:10,662
some people are like, oh well, you'll just help me with my marriage. And the

762
00:45:10,686 --> 00:45:14,374
answer is yes, sure. But I do have, I focus in on the midlife

763
00:45:14,422 --> 00:45:17,650
crisis part and yeah, and I do have that.

764
00:45:18,140 --> 00:45:21,812
So the app is, it's basically right now I have a website with all

765
00:45:21,836 --> 00:45:25,120
of my. It's school. It's how to get through this time.

766
00:45:25,500 --> 00:45:28,788
Every tiny detail. What to do, what to say.

767
00:45:28,844 --> 00:45:32,244
Wow, very cool. How to feel everything.

768
00:45:32,332 --> 00:45:36,196
How to talk to your mother in law, how to. There's, there's phrases

769
00:45:36,228 --> 00:45:39,572
I use and I've picked up these phrases along the way and

770
00:45:39,596 --> 00:45:43,054
they work. There was a psychoanalyst I worked with in 2013

771
00:45:43,252 --> 00:45:46,890
who shared with me all of her stuff and I think she's like well into

772
00:45:46,930 --> 00:45:50,714
her 90s. And yeah, her phrases

773
00:45:50,762 --> 00:45:54,202
works the perfect sentence. I teach people how to do the perfect sentence.

774
00:45:54,346 --> 00:45:57,338
So yeah, so there's a whole bunch. Of things that called the Wife expert.

775
00:45:57,434 --> 00:46:00,666
So on. On. It'll be on Google and Apple or.

776
00:46:00,818 --> 00:46:04,330
Yeah, it's a blue butterfly. A blue butterfly. Okay. And it comes

777
00:46:04,370 --> 00:46:07,690
out either tomorrow or the next day. That's what they. Oh my gosh. I know.

778
00:46:07,730 --> 00:46:11,082
But they've been saying this for months. This has been a two year project

779
00:46:11,266 --> 00:46:14,698
and it's almost out. So if it's not out when someone hears this,

780
00:46:14,834 --> 00:46:17,866
check again. Give it like a week. But you can, you can sign.

781
00:46:17,938 --> 00:46:21,194
The best thing to do is sign up on my website, which is the wife

782
00:46:21,242 --> 00:46:25,082
expert.com and then at the top left corner is a button that

783
00:46:25,106 --> 00:46:29,082
says videos. That's where you want to go. Those are not my YouTube videos.

784
00:46:29,146 --> 00:46:32,826
My YouTube videos. I talk about a lot of this stuff,

785
00:46:32,858 --> 00:46:36,490
but I don't give direction. Here's why people

786
00:46:36,530 --> 00:46:40,482
say, why don't you Just tell more, because I can't. If I were

787
00:46:40,506 --> 00:46:44,098
to talk about what I know and what I. What I really.

788
00:46:44,154 --> 00:46:47,618
All the secrets. What if horse. I call horse face

789
00:46:47,674 --> 00:46:51,186
the affair partner. What if horse face

790
00:46:51,338 --> 00:46:55,714
gets a hold of this information? This information can.

791
00:46:55,802 --> 00:46:58,070
If you learn it well, you can get any guy.

792
00:46:59,610 --> 00:47:03,282
So it's kind of secret, and I want the wife to have it because

793
00:47:03,306 --> 00:47:06,742
these are tools in her toolbox that can connect her back

794
00:47:06,766 --> 00:47:10,022
to him and bring him home. And there's

795
00:47:10,086 --> 00:47:13,770
so many tiny little details that if it gets in the wrong hands,

796
00:47:14,270 --> 00:47:17,650
I'm right. I don't. I would.

797
00:47:18,510 --> 00:47:22,118
That would be bad. Like, I'm thinking about one girl right now. If her

798
00:47:22,174 --> 00:47:24,850
horse face was on my program,

799
00:47:25,550 --> 00:47:28,934
I would. My job is to get someone's husband home.

800
00:47:29,102 --> 00:47:32,894
And if I had to battle the devil who. Who has my program

801
00:47:32,982 --> 00:47:36,766
as well. Right. Yikes. That. That would make it very hard. I mean,

802
00:47:36,838 --> 00:47:40,702
over time, I do believe the husband sees through the baloney with the

803
00:47:40,726 --> 00:47:44,142
horse face. It does take time, but the

804
00:47:44,166 --> 00:47:46,530
wife needs to do everything else.

805
00:47:48,710 --> 00:47:51,930
Well, I don't know how you can prevent horse faces from

806
00:47:52,470 --> 00:47:55,406
subscribing to the app. Well,

807
00:47:55,558 --> 00:47:59,490
usually when. So I care. So right now, I can only have 300

808
00:47:59,530 --> 00:48:03,042
people at a time. So that's my limit, and that's all I

809
00:48:03,066 --> 00:48:06,034
can handle because I care for people on the app.

810
00:48:06,122 --> 00:48:09,346
There's also this thing called community, and there are five different

811
00:48:09,418 --> 00:48:12,754
channels. If you have kids, if you're dealing with a mother, there's a

812
00:48:12,762 --> 00:48:16,290
whole bunch of things. There's. I also have hope, so God winks and things

813
00:48:16,330 --> 00:48:20,002
like that. Like, those are positive things that happen. Those are all different channels where

814
00:48:20,026 --> 00:48:23,842
you can leave comments and talk to everybody. So I don't want it to be

815
00:48:23,866 --> 00:48:27,412
out of control. I don't like on Facebook when people go negative.

816
00:48:27,556 --> 00:48:31,684
This is a positive place because we are all having one goal.

817
00:48:31,732 --> 00:48:34,820
And I have the biggest part of that I

818
00:48:34,860 --> 00:48:39,252
want. If you come to me, we're getting him home. It might take a while,

819
00:48:39,436 --> 00:48:42,868
but if that's what you want, that's what we're doing, and that's what this app

820
00:48:42,924 --> 00:48:46,532
does. And if someone comes on and they're not part

821
00:48:46,556 --> 00:48:50,280
of that, I do have people come on and they're like, I'm the third wife,

822
00:48:50,630 --> 00:48:54,158
and I say, okay. We go through everything. You know,

823
00:48:54,214 --> 00:48:57,134
part of my heart goes back to the first wife. Like, oh,

824
00:48:57,182 --> 00:49:00,542
God, I wish she was here. Right. Because I can help her.

825
00:49:00,646 --> 00:49:04,926
And I say, does she, the first wife, want him back? And the answer

826
00:49:05,038 --> 00:49:08,334
usually is no. She hates him. And Hate

827
00:49:08,382 --> 00:49:11,790
can be turned to love so easily. It really can.

828
00:49:11,910 --> 00:49:16,164
Just a few tools. So I remind the third wife that

829
00:49:16,302 --> 00:49:19,896
there's a chance that he could go back to her when she figures

830
00:49:19,928 --> 00:49:23,464
this out. And the third wife is always like, never is going to

831
00:49:23,472 --> 00:49:26,968
happen. And I'm like, okay. So I just make that clear, right?

832
00:49:27,024 --> 00:49:30,360
Yeah. Yeah. All the kids were born in that first

833
00:49:30,400 --> 00:49:34,488
family. That's right. And you want to manage expectations and all that.

834
00:49:34,624 --> 00:49:38,260
Yeah. And I believe in the tree. So I talk about this in my program.

835
00:49:38,640 --> 00:49:42,120
When you get married, you invest, you believe

836
00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:45,550
it's forever. No one gets married going, oh, let's do this for two weeks.

837
00:49:45,670 --> 00:49:49,182
No, they get married and they do it forever. So you

838
00:49:49,206 --> 00:49:52,782
plant seeds and you plant your roots and you hang in there.

839
00:49:52,966 --> 00:49:57,054
And then the hurricane comes. And most trees in hurricane

840
00:49:57,102 --> 00:50:01,198
areas, they're prone to growing longer

841
00:50:01,294 --> 00:50:04,690
roots, so they can hang on during a hurricane.

842
00:50:05,030 --> 00:50:09,054
Yet if they get ripped up and someone relocates

843
00:50:09,102 --> 00:50:12,848
them and puts them in new ground, they never

844
00:50:12,984 --> 00:50:16,672
attach. They might hang out there for

845
00:50:16,696 --> 00:50:20,176
a while, and they might be there, fine. And if there's nowhere

846
00:50:20,208 --> 00:50:24,300
to go back to the first wife, and the first wife isn't doing things right,

847
00:50:24,840 --> 00:50:28,736
they won't go back. They'll poke their head in. I had someone poke

848
00:50:28,768 --> 00:50:31,712
this morning. I had a call with a lady who's like, he. We talked for

849
00:50:31,736 --> 00:50:35,336
like an hour. I don't know why he came over. It was so puzzling.

850
00:50:35,488 --> 00:50:38,712
And I'm like, he's poking. He's checking up on you.

851
00:50:38,736 --> 00:50:42,264
And she goes, oh, I never

852
00:50:42,352 --> 00:50:45,352
thought of that. And I'm like, yeah,

853
00:50:45,416 --> 00:50:48,248
he was the tree putting a root out going, is she there?

854
00:50:48,304 --> 00:50:52,280
What's going on over there? So the wife had no idea,

855
00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:55,576
but it changed her perception on things. I changed

856
00:50:55,608 --> 00:50:59,320
people's perceptions so that tree can

857
00:50:59,360 --> 00:51:02,944
be replanted back where it first came from. It won't.

858
00:51:02,992 --> 00:51:06,300
It won't. He. They might act all happy, and, you know,

859
00:51:07,080 --> 00:51:10,368
it's not great, because they have to. They have to. They have to. They gotta

860
00:51:10,384 --> 00:51:13,632
save face. Yep. The wife went back to what she was. Yeah.

861
00:51:13,696 --> 00:51:16,672
Yeah. I love that analogy of the tree. Like when you were saying that,

862
00:51:16,696 --> 00:51:20,064
I was just thinking, well, sometimes their branches fall off in a

863
00:51:20,072 --> 00:51:23,904
storm. You know, it's okay. But I just had that happen in

864
00:51:23,912 --> 00:51:27,104
my trees in the backyard. Just had to have the farmers

865
00:51:27,152 --> 00:51:30,240
come over and take out a bunch of trees and cut branches. Your branches fall

866
00:51:30,280 --> 00:51:33,302
off, but you're still okay. We, we. You know,

867
00:51:33,326 --> 00:51:36,774
that's just life. I mean, the older we get, the more branches we start losing

868
00:51:36,902 --> 00:51:40,330
Stuff starts breaking, Things aren't working anymore.

869
00:51:41,870 --> 00:51:45,286
Old age comes. Yeah.

870
00:51:45,398 --> 00:51:48,662
We can't make it go away. So we've got the app and it's called the

871
00:51:48,686 --> 00:51:52,070
Wife Expert. And is it a monthly subscription or how does that work?

872
00:51:52,190 --> 00:51:54,850
Yeah, it's a monthly. Or you can sign up for a year.

873
00:51:55,630 --> 00:51:58,954
Yeah. And people, you know, when. If you want to call me, people are

874
00:51:58,962 --> 00:52:02,266
like, can't you combo the calls in? And I don't. I don't usually

875
00:52:02,298 --> 00:52:05,930
do that. Um. Cause it's separate. Cause I have to pay the app people,

876
00:52:06,050 --> 00:52:09,722
you know, it's costing me a fortune to do this. And this is why I

877
00:52:09,746 --> 00:52:13,866
want people to understand how much I care about them. Because it's like,

878
00:52:14,018 --> 00:52:17,482
yes, the app is it. I could I just stay

879
00:52:17,506 --> 00:52:21,002
on the website and it'd be fine. Yes. But it's complicated to

880
00:52:21,026 --> 00:52:23,722
get there. It takes a while. Plus, you know, it's easier to see on a

881
00:52:23,746 --> 00:52:27,244
computer if doing the app. It's just buttons you

882
00:52:27,252 --> 00:52:30,508
can push the community center, you can talk to people right there.

883
00:52:30,564 --> 00:52:33,708
It's right on your phone. You can watch the videos like that. You can download

884
00:52:33,724 --> 00:52:36,988
them. So when you're on an airplane, you can watch them without having to sign

885
00:52:37,044 --> 00:52:40,604
on to the Internet. It's just brilliant.

886
00:52:40,652 --> 00:52:43,720
So it's worth it for mobile anyway, you know.

887
00:52:44,100 --> 00:52:46,940
Yeah. That's awesome. Yeah. So it's been. It's been.

888
00:52:46,980 --> 00:52:50,284
It's been two hours, two years, but we're almost there. And I'm.

889
00:52:50,332 --> 00:52:54,056
I. It's just going to make people's lives so much better for

890
00:52:54,128 --> 00:52:58,180
those who are on my program. Yeah. Yeah. And it's a controlled community.

891
00:52:59,440 --> 00:53:03,144
Well, it's a control. Yeah. I've trained everybody, you know, this. We're here to

892
00:53:03,152 --> 00:53:07,032
be positive. And in my group calls twice a month, you know,

893
00:53:07,136 --> 00:53:10,408
we have a very fun time on those calls. And it's

894
00:53:10,424 --> 00:53:13,880
great because you get to see people develop. I got one guy on my who

895
00:53:13,920 --> 00:53:17,848
know who. Although, because men are different than women. And we've

896
00:53:17,864 --> 00:53:20,680
been. I've been assigning him to do certain things, and every time we talk,

897
00:53:20,720 --> 00:53:24,456
two weeks later, he's not doing them. And everybody gets

898
00:53:24,488 --> 00:53:27,176
to see them. And then in the chat, they're like, what are you doing?

899
00:53:27,248 --> 00:53:30,744
Come on, let's go. So this one guy has like, you know,

900
00:53:30,832 --> 00:53:33,864
a hundred women. Come on, what are you doing?

901
00:53:33,952 --> 00:53:37,000
They're like a bunch of sisters. So it's really supportive.

902
00:53:37,160 --> 00:53:40,504
And that's what I love the most. And that's why I can't wait for

903
00:53:40,512 --> 00:53:43,496
the app, because then the support will happen. Really Quick.

904
00:53:43,648 --> 00:53:47,020
Oh, that's awesome. Yeah, no, it's going to be great. I'm psyched.

905
00:53:47,770 --> 00:53:51,714
Okay, so I think we've touched on your story. Your upcoming product

906
00:53:51,802 --> 00:53:56,370
launch tomorrow, possibly, and any

907
00:53:56,410 --> 00:54:00,050
last minute, you know, any last, like, words of advice for

908
00:54:00,090 --> 00:54:03,762
our listeners that are. Yeah, so we. And we could have listeners on

909
00:54:03,786 --> 00:54:07,218
here today that just found out about a bomb drop yesterday,

910
00:54:07,314 --> 00:54:10,470
you know, that are, you know, really fresh and raw.

911
00:54:10,890 --> 00:54:14,680
We could. Yeah. How.

912
00:54:15,140 --> 00:54:18,236
No, that could be a listener that's on here right now that just. Oh,

913
00:54:18,268 --> 00:54:21,804
I mean, like, I'm like, I'll talk to someone. Yeah.

914
00:54:21,852 --> 00:54:26,620
So, couple things. I have a book. It's called My

915
00:54:26,660 --> 00:54:30,236
Grateful Book. It is on Amazon. And I.

916
00:54:30,308 --> 00:54:33,452
I took years to write this because I wanted everything in there.

917
00:54:33,556 --> 00:54:36,908
One of the things that I teach people to do is journal, because you're gonna

918
00:54:36,924 --> 00:54:40,634
look back on this time and you're gonna forget things that happened, dates, times,

919
00:54:40,802 --> 00:54:44,506
stuff. I've screenshotted some of my old texts between my husband

920
00:54:44,538 --> 00:54:48,602
and I where it's like, my husband would never write these things. Who am

921
00:54:48,626 --> 00:54:52,234
I talking to? So I encourage people to start a journal.

922
00:54:52,322 --> 00:54:55,786
So I actually created a journal called My Grateful Book,

923
00:54:55,938 --> 00:54:59,818
and in it has all of these questions that you answer to

924
00:54:59,874 --> 00:55:02,938
not only find out if he's in a midlife crisis, but just to keep current

925
00:55:02,994 --> 00:55:06,346
on all this data. So it's a great book and it's on Amazon.

926
00:55:06,378 --> 00:55:08,874
And then I have got a few notebooks on there as well.

927
00:55:09,042 --> 00:55:12,810
And I have a book. Can I just ask the. My Grateful Book, Is that

928
00:55:12,850 --> 00:55:16,378
something that's. Even. You could get that right when you are starting

929
00:55:16,474 --> 00:55:20,090
this whole adventure? It's separate. It's. Yeah, you can get

930
00:55:20,130 --> 00:55:23,562
it anytime. Like right now, if you were in a midlife crisis zone with your

931
00:55:23,586 --> 00:55:26,970
husband and it's been two years, you could still get it. It's a.

932
00:55:27,010 --> 00:55:30,570
It's a. It's phenomenal. And at the back

933
00:55:30,610 --> 00:55:33,738
end, it has a journaling area, but the front. And in between,

934
00:55:33,794 --> 00:55:36,430
it's got some advice and bits and quotes.

935
00:55:36,910 --> 00:55:39,974
Um. Yeah. But it's got practically every deal detail that

936
00:55:39,982 --> 00:55:43,302
you'd want to know if you were. If it was 20 years later and you

937
00:55:43,326 --> 00:55:47,110
were looking back. Yeah. What was. What was that? I don't remember.

938
00:55:47,270 --> 00:55:50,566
Right. It would be all there because brain.

939
00:55:50,598 --> 00:55:54,022
Fog is actually a very common thing for the mlcer as well as the left

940
00:55:54,046 --> 00:55:57,190
behind spouse or forward moves. Oh, yeah. I.

941
00:55:57,230 --> 00:56:00,438
I have people, like, say, I watched all your

942
00:56:00,494 --> 00:56:03,752
videos, but then I. I think I watched this one already. And it's like,

943
00:56:03,776 --> 00:56:06,020
you might have Seen the same thing like 20 times.

944
00:56:06,800 --> 00:56:10,488
You just don't remember. Right. Every time you see a video, you see.

945
00:56:10,544 --> 00:56:14,740
You hear something new. Yep. And yeah, and I love that part.

946
00:56:16,160 --> 00:56:18,660
Discover, learn, be open,

947
00:56:19,120 --> 00:56:22,152
curious. You're never. You're never perfect.

948
00:56:22,216 --> 00:56:25,384
Life is just school. We are all here to learn

949
00:56:25,432 --> 00:56:29,128
and grow and constantly be changing. And you're getting wiser

950
00:56:29,144 --> 00:56:31,220
and wiser every single day.

951
00:56:32,820 --> 00:56:36,876
That's right. Well, I hope our audience got the. All those tips

952
00:56:36,908 --> 00:56:40,412
and wrote all those things down and. All right. And you

953
00:56:40,436 --> 00:56:44,076
can find Lori any day of the week, 24, 7 on

954
00:56:44,148 --> 00:56:48,172
YouTube and wherever your favorite spot. Your podcasts are the

955
00:56:48,196 --> 00:56:52,220
wife expert.com and. And now her app and on

956
00:56:52,260 --> 00:56:55,532
Amazon. So. All right, hey, you know,

957
00:56:55,556 --> 00:56:58,732
I. Let's just do something. I'm going

958
00:56:58,756 --> 00:57:02,380
to make. If any I have, you know, to talk to me is

959
00:57:02,420 --> 00:57:05,852
usually a higher price. But if anyone wants to talk to me and

960
00:57:05,876 --> 00:57:09,820
they mention your name or this podcast,

961
00:57:09,980 --> 00:57:13,452
I will give them a rate of $99 to talk

962
00:57:13,476 --> 00:57:17,440
to me for half hour. What is it normally?

963
00:57:17,860 --> 00:57:21,548
129. Yay. Did you guys

964
00:57:21,564 --> 00:57:24,760
hear that? All right, $99 special, so.

965
00:57:25,330 --> 00:57:29,470
Oh, my dog likes that. Oh, my God.

966
00:57:29,890 --> 00:57:32,870
Oh, my God. Because Gracie's gonna be calling you.

967
00:57:33,250 --> 00:57:36,522
But anyway. Oh, okay. So 99.

968
00:57:36,626 --> 00:57:40,666
If they mentioned Trina or MLC, bomb drop. Okay, that's super

969
00:57:40,738 --> 00:57:44,042
awesome. Thank you, Lori. That's super nice. Because there's a lot of folks out there

970
00:57:44,066 --> 00:57:46,682
that need help and you know a lot. You can get a lot of good.

971
00:57:46,706 --> 00:57:49,866
Info in half an hour. It can make all the difference. You could save

972
00:57:49,898 --> 00:57:53,490
your marriage. And you know what? No, let me just say, you know,

973
00:57:53,530 --> 00:57:56,584
$99 is nothing compared to like 40,

974
00:57:56,711 --> 00:58:00,274
50, 60, $70,000 that it's going to cost to get divorced.

975
00:58:00,402 --> 00:58:04,674
So $99 or. Or 50 grand.

976
00:58:04,802 --> 00:58:08,482
I mean, that's absolutely true. And here's what.

977
00:58:08,506 --> 00:58:11,986
Here's my. I've got one more little offer that I can tell people only

978
00:58:12,058 --> 00:58:14,750
for people who are listening right now. That's it.

979
00:58:15,930 --> 00:58:19,292
If they join my videos, I will give them a

980
00:58:19,316 --> 00:58:22,092
half hour free. Yay.

981
00:58:22,156 --> 00:58:25,740
Did you guys hear that? Okay, so they can go

982
00:58:25,780 --> 00:58:29,180
to the wife expert dot com. Mm. Okay, got it.

983
00:58:29,220 --> 00:58:32,460
Yeah. And it's only for people that say. Tell them

984
00:58:32,500 --> 00:58:36,284
exactly what to say. Bomb drop. Yep.

985
00:58:36,412 --> 00:58:39,040
Okay. Bomb drop, you guys, is there coupon?

986
00:58:39,620 --> 00:58:42,396
Let's promote your podcast here. Aw,

987
00:58:42,468 --> 00:58:46,096
thanks. We call that the Bomb Drop podcast. Yep.

988
00:58:46,128 --> 00:58:49,536
MLC Bomb Drop. I think I might get sweatshirts that say bomb drop.

989
00:58:49,648 --> 00:58:52,160
Sometimes I worry about that and think that, you know, maybe.

990
00:58:52,240 --> 00:58:55,952
Oh, you know, you know how like people say,

991
00:58:56,056 --> 00:58:59,664
does he bomb? But anyway, no, it's brainstorm. Let's come up

992
00:58:59,672 --> 00:59:03,440
with a good title for you on that. I love that because

993
00:59:03,480 --> 00:59:06,672
that's what it is. It's the horrific day that somebody dropped a bomb on you

994
00:59:06,696 --> 00:59:09,888
and everything changed. And that's why, it's just, it's like

995
00:59:10,024 --> 00:59:13,274
you're, and let's talk about this for a second. Your world

996
00:59:13,362 --> 00:59:16,590
changed on that date that that bomb dropped.

997
00:59:16,930 --> 00:59:20,922
And it could be terrible or it could

998
00:59:20,946 --> 00:59:24,090
be the greatest thing that ever happened to you. I look

999
00:59:24,130 --> 00:59:27,802
back on my life, had this not happened to me,

1000
00:59:27,986 --> 00:59:31,290
I wouldn't be who I am today. Exactly. None of us

1001
00:59:31,330 --> 00:59:34,710
would. It's, it's so true. You know, you have to look at every

1002
00:59:35,250 --> 00:59:39,134
time God closes a window, he opens a door, a garage door,

1003
00:59:39,242 --> 00:59:42,998
maybe takes out a whole wall. You know, I love that.

1004
00:59:43,134 --> 00:59:47,174
Yes. And I say when lemon, when life gives you lemons, make lemon drops.

1005
00:59:47,302 --> 00:59:50,758
So and so now I'm thirsty, so we better finish this.

1006
00:59:50,814 --> 00:59:54,390
It's cocktail time. All right, Lori, I'm going to sign us

1007
00:59:54,430 --> 00:59:57,814
off and so. Okay.

1008
00:59:57,942 --> 01:00:01,350
Thanks so much for joining us today and I will, will see you

1009
01:00:01,390 --> 01:00:04,410
on the next podcast. Thank you, Trina.

1010
01:00:09,480 --> 01:00:14,112
Hey guys, thanks so much for joining us today with with Lori McDermott,

1011
01:00:14,176 --> 01:00:17,648
CEO and founder of the wife expert.com and

1012
01:00:17,704 --> 01:00:21,616
she's got her app coming out any day. So you heard

1013
01:00:21,648 --> 01:00:25,664
she's got some specials that she's offering exclusively to our MLC

1014
01:00:25,712 --> 01:00:29,776
bomb drop listeners. So if you go to the wifeexpert.com

1015
01:00:29,928 --> 01:00:33,616
look for her half hour consultation, you can sign up there.

1016
01:00:33,768 --> 01:00:37,024
And instead of the $129 that you

1017
01:00:37,032 --> 01:00:41,056
would normally get a private consultation with the keyword bomb

1018
01:00:41,088 --> 01:00:44,832
drop, you'll get it reduced to $99. And also if

1019
01:00:44,856 --> 01:00:48,224
you want to join her video program, she will,

1020
01:00:48,312 --> 01:00:51,808
you can use the keyword bomb drop and she'll include a half

1021
01:00:51,864 --> 01:00:55,104
hour private consultation for you there as well.

1022
01:00:55,272 --> 01:00:58,624
So check out her site, the wifeexpert.com

1023
01:00:58,792 --> 01:01:02,424
and use the coupon bombdrop and then also check

1024
01:01:02,472 --> 01:01:06,980
for her upcoming app. It'll be available on the Apple and

1025
01:01:08,160 --> 01:01:11,896
Apple, what do you call it where you get your apps

1026
01:01:11,928 --> 01:01:15,720
on Apple? I'm a Samsung, so I don't know. But anyway,

1027
01:01:15,800 --> 01:01:19,736
wherever you get the apps on Apple products, it'll be there Apple

1028
01:01:19,768 --> 01:01:23,000
Store maybe and, and also on

1029
01:01:23,040 --> 01:01:27,528
Google Play on the Google Play Store you'll find the wife expert.com

1030
01:01:27,664 --> 01:01:31,514
and the symbol is, the symbol

1031
01:01:31,642 --> 01:01:35,130
is the butterfly, little blue butterfly.

1032
01:01:35,210 --> 01:01:38,474
So look for that. It could be out now, but she said just check,

1033
01:01:38,522 --> 01:01:41,642
you know, within the week. And also if you just

1034
01:01:41,666 --> 01:01:45,002
sign up on the wifeexpert.com, if you keep an eye out there,

1035
01:01:45,186 --> 01:01:49,066
you'll see if you subscribe there, you'll see that you'll be alerted

1036
01:01:49,098 --> 01:01:52,634
when it's out. So anyway, thanks again for joining us today.

1037
01:01:52,722 --> 01:01:56,410
Hope you got some good info there. And we'll see you soon for another

1038
01:01:56,450 --> 01:01:58,946
bomb drop. All right, guys, stay. Awesome.