May 11, 2025

Celebrate Resilience This Mother's Day

Celebrate Resilience This Mother's Day
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Celebrate Resilience This Mother's Day

This episode of 'Midlife Crisis Bomb Drop and Beyond' is dedicated to mothers who feel overlooked or replaced, especially amidst midlife crises. It acknowledges the strength of women who hold their families together through hardship, emphasizing their resilience as they redefine womanhood. The host encourages mothers to embrace their value and offers a heartfelt message of affirmation. Lisa Terkeurst’s message on bravery inspires listeners to face fear with action, reminding them that true courage comes from rising despite challenges. Listeners are urged to celebrate Mother's Day by recognizing their strength and enjoying self-love and joy.

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Sam

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the stories and events discussed in this podcast are based on

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our guest experiences and are intended for informational and entertainment purposes

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only. They should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice.

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Any names, locations, or identifying details have been changed

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to protect privacy. Any similarities to actual persons,

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living or dead, or real events are purely coincidental. The views and

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opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the

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host or the podcast creators. Listeners should consult with a qualified professional

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regarding their own circumstances.

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Foreign hello

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and welcome to Midlife Crisis Bomb Drop and Beyond the

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space where truth is told, wounds are validated,

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and the survivors rise. Today's episode

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is for the mothers. Not just any mothers, but for the

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ones who are left behind, forgotten or replaced. For the

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mothers who stood in the ashes of what once was and still

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made breakfast, still dried tears and still showed up.

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If this Mother's Day feels more like a scar than a

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celebration, I see you. I've been there.

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We've all been there. If you were discarded in a

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midlife crisis, betrayed, ghosted, lied to,

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you are not alone. Today isn't about the card

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you didn't get or the text that never came. It's about you.

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The woman who held it all together while everything around her

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fell apart. You weren't just a wife. You were

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the glue. And when he walked away in the name of reinvention

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or escape, you became more than even you realized. You became

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a nurse to your children's wounds, a quiet warrior for your home,

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a teacher, a protector, a therapist,

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and often the only stable presence they had

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left. Let's name that. You were

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enough. You are enough.

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And when he made you feel otherwise, even when he chose

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fantasy over family,

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even when you had to celebrate your own damn self on days like

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this, you are enough.

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Many MLC men run straight into the arms of someone else.

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Someone who strokes their ego, erases their

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shame, and lets them pretend they're not the problem.

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And here's the lie they believe.

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They believe that you were the barrier to their happiness.

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Oh my gosh. They believe you were the barrier to their joy

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and youthfulness. But here's the truth.

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You, honey. You are actually the mirror to their brokenness.

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Which is why they ran. You love

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them too well, too deeply. You love them,

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possibly for far too long. And that made them uncomfortable.

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So they ran. They didn't trade up.

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They traded real for fake. They traded

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depth for surface. They traded family

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for fantasy. They traded soul for

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fantasy. But guess what? You, honey. You remained

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real. You are enough.

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And you know what? Your children are watching they see

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who stayed. They see who sacrificed. And they may not

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have the words today, but one day they'll know. You know what?

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During that time where our family fell apart, my mom

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didn't quit. My mom was there for me through

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thick and thin, even when she really needed somebody else to help

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her. But she was there for them. And they see that. They know that.

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They will forever know that you are building a

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new legacy even through the pain. You are

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modeling resilience. You are redefining

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womanhood not by who kept you, but by

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who couldn't break you. That is huge.

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So, girl, this mother's day, here's your affirmation.

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And please play this back later.

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Recite it yourself and remember,

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here's your affirmation for mother's day and for every

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day because you are a hot mama, that you

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are the best. So just know this.

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You are not forgotten. You are not discarded. You are

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reborn. You are going to mother through heartbreak,

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rise, through abandonment and love,

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even when love hasn't loved you back.

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And to every mother listening who feels invisible today,

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just know you are the heartbeat. You are

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the lighthouse. You are the home.

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Happy Mother's Day, warrior. You are still standing,

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and that is your power. Stay strong,

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stay sacred. And remember, you were always

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the gift. And you will forever and always be the

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You know, a few months ago, I had the opportunity, opportunity to hear

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Lisa Terkeurst here in El Dorado hills, California.

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She was phenomenal. She's been through a lot.

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And if you think your story's bad and you

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don't know how to get out of bed in the morning, go check out what

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she has gone through. I'm going to spell her name. It's L Y

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S A Lisa. And her last name is Terkehurst. And that's

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T E R K E U R S T again,

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Lisa Turkhurst. She's on instagram and everywhere, but you

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could check her out. And she has gone through infidelity,

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betrayal, betrayal, trauma, you name it in

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the public eye, which is really even sometimes way worse and

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harder to deal with. She went through that battle.

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I think she also went through breast cancer at the same time.

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Seems to be a common theme around here. But anyway,

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Lisa recited.

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I don't know if you call this the end of her speech, a quote,

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a saying, but it really hit me.

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And I want to share it with you ladies today because I

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think. I think this is phenomenal. It's called be brave

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by Lisa Terkeurst.

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Being brave is not always something you feel. It's something you

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do. You do it in the face of fear and unknown outcomes and

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risks that you don't really want to take. You do it when your enemy is

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staring you down with taunting statements of defeat.

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You do it not to prove there's something great inside of you.

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You do it because if you don't do it, something will die inside

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of you. You do brave things because it's time

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to rise up and speak up and let truth find its freedom with

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your voice. What knocked you down won't

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keep you down. What happened was wrong. Acknowledge it, speak it,

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cry over it, but don't die

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over it. You have been hurt, but you don't have to live hurt.

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You do brave things because you were made to connect not

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with all people, but with the right people.

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Take the right risk, take it slow, but don't

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stop. Don't withdraw, don't disappear. You do

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brave things because you are a woman who can kneel humbly and rise

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intentionally. You will find good people, and good

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people will find you.

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And you'll do brave until you become brave.

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You'll know love again. You'll know laughter again.

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And you'll know deep in your bones that you won't waste all

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that you've learned. Those spilled tears, those every one

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of them was you letting go of the pain to make room for possibility.

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Your life is not a tragedy. It's a testimony that

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God is your rock and your redeemer. And if

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your hands are shaking, let it be only because you are pointing

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at the devil who picked the wrong girl to mess with this time.

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Don't wait until you feel brave. Go be brave.

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And remember, if God is for you, there is

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nothing that can stand against you.

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So sisters, go be brave. Have a fabulous

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Mother's Day. I hope you get just whatever makes you happy

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and joyful. If it's taking a long nap, taking a long

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walk, just go make it your day. It's your day,

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so enjoy. Happy Mother's Day and thanks for listening on MLC

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Bomb drop and beyond.