Feb. 15, 2026

Attachment Isn't Attraction: Why Crisis Bonds Feel Like Love, But They Are Far From It

Attachment Isn't Attraction: Why Crisis Bonds Feel Like Love, But They Are Far From It
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Attachment Isn't Attraction: Why Crisis Bonds Feel Like Love, But They Are Far From It

In this episode, host Trina Laird discusses how psychological attachment, often confused with true attraction, is linked to a person's need for emotional relief rather than compatibility. Trina explains the unsettling shift from partner to adversary, describing it as a survival tactic rather than a deliberate choice for the person in MLC. The discussion offers solace by suggesting that the behaviors and accusations made by those in crisis reveal more about their internal turmoil than the reality of their loved ones. The brain in MLC didn't choose a better partner, it forced them to choose a person who helped them escape their pain.